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Darkness and light

An eye for an eye. Tit for tat. These are things that we have grown up listening to.  Many circumstances in life hurt us. People and situations can have such a bad impact on us. Some people lash out in their anger without thinking the problem through. What were the circumstances behind the lash out or the reason behind such illicit behavior. Revenge might seem like a very good option. Darkness cannot drive out darkness only light can . While watching a movie, this line got stuck in my head. I'm a person who strongly believes in this. It's always darkest before the dawn. So how ever bad a situation in your life gets, you should believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Same goes for those who believe in revenge. There is no need to rush off at someone who fired out at you or put you down. If you believe in revenge; it shows you are actually a weak person. It shows you are not able to withstand the downfall and rise up on your own. You are a person who w
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Realists & Dreamers

So I came across this while watching an episode of modern family and it really got me thinking. I'm just gonna quote the lines below: "There are dreamers and there are realists in this world, you think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists but more often than not the opposite is true. See the dreamers need the realists to keep the dreamers from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists? Well without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground." Yea well people might be divided broadly into two categories: You are either a Realist or a Dreamer, An Optimist or a Pessimist. I consider myself a Realist. A Realist is a person who considers every aspect to a situation before making a decision. It's not that he is afraid to dream ; just that he realises that sometimes the dreams may be too far fetching. He could be termed as a pessimist. We are those kind people who only dive into stuff after  thinking abo

Brown Family Problems #2

And continuing from my previous post.. Dowry as I said earlier is kind of like a price tag. You hit the bull's eye when you get your target right on the money. It's quite a debated topic with a lot of laws in place to abolish the practice of accepting dowry; but that's all just in paper. In order to come into effect it's gonna take a long time. It basically means changing the mindset of a chunk of society which can be quite the challenge. Another thing about Indian marriages or so would be the qualification of the bride and groom. If the bride is a doctor then she can only get married to a doctor. Equally important is your religion or caste . Getting married to a person not from the same caste or religion is like the biggest sin anyone could commit.If  He/she proceeds with a marriage of such sort, they would bring on themselves the shun of society and family. The family would practically disown you and kick you out. Trust me I am not exaggerating when I s

Brown Family Problems

Namaste! :) I hail from a brown family with rich Indian roots. Now that sucks. The diversity in culture and language might be good. But honestly Indian traditional customs are so narrow minded. They play a lot of importance on family values. Well, in one way that could be good and I do appreciate it but on the other hand it goes to an extreme end. I do realise that times are changing but this is not a problem that goes away so easy. No matter how modern a family you say you come from; as long as your Indian, you face the same issue. They care too much about what society thinks and mind you, Indian society is very bitchy and judgemental! Every neighbour or older person ( called uncles or aunties) play a major role in your life. You may try your best to keep them out of your life. But they ain't going nowhere. They will have a say in your life. They end up being the ones deciding where you study, who your friends are and ultimately who you get married to! This is the most ab

Fate or Destiny?

It's probably the most debated topics out  there. One always wonders whether he lives a life that is just his fate's way or is he living his destiny. Now there is, quite a big difference between fate and destiny. Essentially they are opposite in meaning. Fate is something bad or rather negative in nature. On the other hand, Destiny is positive . Fate is what happens on its own. It's unpredictable and the course of its nature cannot be changed. It happens regardless of what you might think or do. Whereas destiny is what you make of life. Everyone can chose their destiny . It's all the result of their choices over a period of time. I'm a staunch believer. I believe God is the reason for my existence and survival. So in between the fate and destiny, there's one big person that actually determines your life. And that is God. You might think it's karma when u start suffering.  But in fact all that wouldn't happen if God did not want it to happen in yo

What is Happiness?

I was just reading through an article, when this quote caught my gaze. ' Happiness is the most important thing in the world, without it,  you live a life of depression' - Marilyn Monroe . So what is happiness?  It can't be defined.  I just read about the news of the passing away of robin Williams and it was truly shocking to hear that a man of such high worth would end his life. To me he was the best at his game but that did not mean he was happy with his life. It's easy to put on a facade and move on as if  nothing ever happened. It's easy to pretend; to put on a show. You might be able to convince the whole world that you are happy with your life but if you can't even belive it yourself, then I tell you there's no way you can move on in life.  Cause one day it will get to you. Happiness is what you make of life. You get to chose your destiny. Destiny is not a fate. Happiness is what you make of life. At the end of it all, life is made up of all th

Where do you think you're heading?

As i stay up one night, my head, as usual, wanders into endless thoughts. One thought strikes me real hard. What exactly am i doing with my life? This question kept lingering at the back of my head. I am quite used  to these kind of thoughts that get stuck in my head. But this one was different. I couldn't quite wrap my head around getting my way around it.  We all live in a world where we are so caught up with getting through with each day's worries. But Hey! Slow down! Take a moment. Breathe! Where the heck do u think you're heading?   Why do you run around taking on so much worry when you don't know where you're heading to? You might think you have your future all mapped out. oh yeah you're struggling so hard : probably trying hard to get  through school, survivng university and some others; to just get a damn job with the single motto of earning enough money to live each day in a mediocre lifestyle( cause otherwise u just might end up on the streets